Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Updates on Dad's condition

Todd, Sheryl and Mike have all experienced Dad's extreme irrational behavior the past few days, (threats to buy a new car, moving to Texas etc.) possibly brought on by Gary's passing. Den and I called Uncle Grant this morning and asked him if it was true that he wanted Dad to move in with him and he said no! He told Dad he could come visit, but he couldn't be responsible for caring for him. He said, there is no way he should be driving and he also said he was going to call him and tell him he thinks it's time for him to live in an Assisted Living situation. Grant told him that when he was here, but Dad told him he couldn't afford it. We all know he can. I'm concerned that he is going to get someone else to take him car shopping. I think the prices of the cars will give him sticker shock, but the point is, he doesn't have the eye sight or the mental sharpness to be driving. He even yelled at Grant and told him he was going the wrong way on the way to the cemetery.
I spoke with Dr. Lym yesterday. He told me we need to understand that our Dad, as we know him, is already gone. We are dealing with the disease and it's only going to get worse. Agreeing with Dad on everything he says is usually the best way to keep him calm. However, the car thing is a concern. The moving situation in not even a possibility. Dad won't pay for the moving costs or pack himself. Plus, I don't think he could sell his condo right now, unless he gave it away, which is highly unlikely.
Why don't we all look into Assisted Living Pricing and we will compare in a week or so.